If you are thinking that separation from your spouse and subsequent divorce are in your near future, there are a number of things that you ought to consider before even beginning the process. For this blog post, we asked a family lawyer for some advice on what the three most important things people should do or consider before hiring an attorney. By following these steps, you will better determine whether divorce is right for your current situation, and how to go about the process better. Though this advice may not apply to everyone in every single situation, it should offer a pretty good basis to go off of. For more information on divorce and family law, be sure to contact the talented custody attorneys at the Law Office of John Waters.
- The first thing you should do before even considering filing for divorce is to seek help from a marriage counselor. A certified family or marriage counselor, or any other type of qualified therapist or mental health professional may be able to help you save your marriage from certain demise. Many people who have considered divorce in the past found that marriage counseling was helpful in opening the channels of communication necessary to heal and help their marriage function better. This type of counselor or therapy can help you cope with familial problems, explore what might have gone wrong in the relationship, and teach you how to move forward in the relationship, if that is the direction that it goes. Though your spouse may be unwilling to participate, we recommend that you begin right away, as you may find it helpful even on your own. For help finding a qualified therapist, we suggest utilizing your social networks including your employer, your church or temple, people at the gym, or any other social network you deem useful.
- The second piece of advice from our family law attorney is to speak with a qualified and reputable divorce attorney before taking any action. It is important that you are well informed and have as much information as possible before even bringing up divorce with your spouse. Divorce and marriage laws are very complex and vary from state to state, so it is important that you speak with someone who understands how the system works. Things that you do prior to the divorce can actually have an impact on the divorce proceeding itself, so be sure you are taking the correct course of actions before diving off the deep end.
- Our third piece of advice is in regard to separation. If you feel that separation and moving out of the family home is the thing you need to do, be sure to talk directly with an attorney first. If you move out without good reason, you could be required to pay alimony or you may lose your chance at getting alimony from your spouse. You also may be banned from returning home by the court until after the whole divorce is over. The best plan of action is to stay in the home until after you have consulted with an attorney, unless you feel that you are physically in danger from your spouse.